Friday 9 June 2023

Motivation - गहराई से सोचो !

 गहराई से सोचो !

आपकी ज़िंदगी का कोच कौन है ?? 


अनीता_अल्वारेज, 

अमेरिका की एक पेशेवर तैराक हैं जो वर्ल्ड चैंपियनशिप के दौरान परफॉर्म करने के लिए स्विमिंग पूल में जैसे ही छलांग लगाई , वो छलांग लगाते ही पानी के अंदर बेहोश हो गई , 


जहाँ पूरी भीड़ सिर्फ़ जीत और हार के बारे में सोच रही थी वहीं उसकी कोच एंड्रिया ने जब देखा कि अनीता एक नियत समय से ज़्यादा देर तक पानी के अंदर है , 


एंड्रिया पल भर के लिए सब कुछ भूल गई कि वर्ल्ड चैंपियनशिप प्रतियोगिता चल रही है , एक पल भी व्यर्थ ना करते हुए एंड्रिया चलती प्रतियोगिता के बीच में ही स्विमिंग पूल में छलांग लगा दी , 


वहाँ मौजूद हज़ारों लोग कुछ समझ पाते तब तक एंड्रिया पानी के अंदर अनीता के पास थी , 

एंड्रिया ने देखा कि अनीता स्विमिंग पूल में पानी के अंदर बेहोश पड़ी है , 


ऐसी हालत में ना हाथ पैर चला सकती ना मदद माँग सकती , 


एंड्रिया ने अनीता को जैसे बाहर निकाला मौजूद हज़ारों लोग सन्न रह गए , एंड्रिया ने अनीता को तो बचा लिया , 


लेकिन हम सबकी ज़िंदगी में बहुत बड़ा सवाल छोड़ गई ! 


इस दुनियाँ में ना जाने कितने लोग हम सबकी ज़िंदगी से जुड़े हैं कितनों से रोज़ मिलते भी होंगे , 


जो इंसान हर किसी से अपने मन की बात नहीं कह पाता कि असल ज़िंदगी में वह भी कहीं डूब रहा है , वह भी किसी तकलीफ़ से गुज़र रहा है , वह भी किसी बात को लेक़र ज़िंदगी से परेशान हो रहा है , लेकिन बता नहीं पा रहा है


जब इंसान किसी को अपने मन की व्यथा , अपनी परेशानी नहीं बता पाता तो मानसिक तनाव इतना बढ़ जाता है कि वह ख़ुद को पूरी दुनियाँ से अलग़ कर लेता है ,  सबकी नज़रों से दूर एकांत में ख़ुद को चारदीवारी में क़ैद कर लेता है , 


ये वक़्त ऐसा होता है कि तब इंसान डूब रहा होता है , उसका मोह ख़त्म हो चुका होता है , ना किसी से बात चीत  ना किसी से मिलना जुलना , 


ये स्थिति इंसान के लिए सबसे ख़तरनाक होती है , 


जब इंसान अपने डूबने के दौर से गुज़र रहा होता है , तब बाक़ी सब दर्शकों की  भाँति अपनी ज़िंदगी में व्यस्त होते हैं किसी को ख़्याल ना होता कि एक इंसान किसी बड़ी परेशानी में है , 


अगर इंसान  कुछ दिन के लिए ग़ायब हो जाए  तो पहले तो लोगों को ख़्याल नहीं आएगा , अगर कुछ को आ भी जाए तो लोग यही सोचेंगे , पहले कितनी बात होती थी अब वो बदल गया है या फिर उसे घमंड हो गया है या अब तो बड़ा आदमी बन गया है इसलिए बात नहीं करता , जब वो बात नहीं करता तो हम कियूँ करें ! 


या फिर ये सोच लेते हैं कि अब दिखाई ना देता तो वो अपनी ज़िंदगी में मस्त है इसलिए नहीं दिखाई देता , 


अनीता पेशेवर तैराक होते हुए डूब सकती है तो कोई भी अपनी ज़िंदगी में बुरे दौर से गुज़र सकता है , ये समझना ज़रूरी है 


लेकिन उन लोगों से हट कर कोई एक इंसान ऐसा भी होगा जो आपकी मनोस्थिति तुरंत भाँप लेगा , उसे बिना कुछ बताये सब पता चल जाएगा , आपकी ज़िंदगी के हर पहलू पर हमेशा नज़र रखेगा , थोड़ा सा भी परेशान हुए वो आपकी परेशानी आकर पूछने लगेगा , 


आपके बेहवियर को पहचान लेगा , आपको हौसला देगा आपको सकारात्मक बनायेगा और एंड्रिया की तरह कोच बन कर आपकी ज़िंदगी को बचा लेगा , 


हम सबको ऐसे कोच की ज़रूरत पड़ती है…


ऐसा  कोच कोई भी हो सकता है , आपका भाई , बहन , माँ , पापा ,

आपका कोई दोस्त , आपका कोई हितैषी , आपका कोई रिश्तेदार , कोई भी , जो बिना बताये आपके भावों को पढ़ ले और तुरंत एक्शन ले।


गहराई से सोचो आपकी ज़िंदगी का कोच कौन है ?? 


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Credit - Original Author

Monday 27 February 2023

Motivation by -Sonam Kapoor,Actor

 हाँ, मैं सेलिब्रेटीज हूँ!!! ये रही मेरी रोजमर्रा जीवन की कहानी...


टीनएज लड़कियो, अगर सुबह जगकर अपने बेडरूम के शीशे में खुद को जब देखती हो और ये सोचती हो कि आख़िर तुम उन तमाम सेलिब्रिटीज़ की तरह क्यों नहीं दिखती, तो ये जान लो कि कोई भी लड़की बिस्तर छोड़ते ही वैसी नहीं दिखती। मैं तो नहीं दिखती, न ही कोई भी और हीरोइनें जिन्हें तुम फ़िल्मों में देखती हो। (बियॉन्से भी नहीं, मैं कसम खाकर कह रही हूँ।)


अब असली बात जान लो। हर पब्लिक आयोजन में जाने से पहले मैं अपने मेकअप की कुर्सी में बैठकर 90 मिनट का समय देती हूँ। तीन से छः लोग मेरे बाल और मेकअप पर काम करते हैं, जबकि एक आदमी मेरे नाख़ून तराशता रहता है। हर सप्ताह मेरी भवें सँवारी जाती हैं, उनकी थ्रेडिंग और ट्वीज़िंग की जाती है। मेरे शरीर के कई हिस्सों पर 'कन्सीलर' लगा होता है जिसके बारे में मैं कभी सोच नहीं सकती थी कि इन्हें छुपाने की ज़रूरत होती होगी! 


मैं हर रोज सुबह 6 बजे जग जाती हूँ और 7:30 बजे तक जिम में होती हूँ। लगभग 90 मिनट का समय हर सुबह, और कई शाम सोने से पहले भी, व्यायाम के लिए होता है। मैं क्या खाऊँ, क्या नहीं खाऊँ, ये बताने के लिए किसी व्यक्ति को नौकरी पर रखा जाता है। मेरे फ़ेसपैक में मेरे भोजन से ज्यादा चीज़ें होती हैं। मेरे कपड़ों को चुनने के लिए लोगों की एक पूरी टीम है। इतने के बाद भी जब मैं 'फ़्लॉलेस' नहीं दिखती तो फोटोशॉप पर खूब काम किया जाता है। 


मैंने पहले भी कहा है, और फिर से कहूँगी कि किसी मॉडल/सेलिब्रिटी को वैसा दिखाने के लिए कई लोगों की एक पूरी फ़ौज, बहुत ज्यादा पैसा, और काफ़ी समय लगता है। ये न तो वास्तविक है, न ही कोई ऐसी चीज है जिसको पाने की कोशिश करनी चाहिए। 


खुद में विश्वास करो। ऐसा बनने की सोचो जहाँ तुम खूबसूरत, उन्मुक्त और खुश रहो, जहाँ तुम्हें एक खास तरीक़े का बनने की कोई ज़रूरत न हो। 


और हाँ, अगली बार से जब भी किसी तेरह साल की बच्ची को किसी मैगजीन कवर पर चमकती बॉलीवुड सेलिब्रिटी की तस्वीर को ललचायी निगाहों से देखती देखो तो उसी वक्त उसे ये बता कर उसका भ्रम तोड़ दो। उसको बता दो कि वो कितनी ख़ूबसूरत है। उसकी सुंदर मुस्कुराहट की बातें करो, उसकी हँसी, उसकी बुद्धि या उसके आत्मविश्वास की बात करो। 


उसके भीतर ये विचार पनपने मत दो कि उसमें कोई कमी है, या उसमें कुछ ऐसा नहीं है जो पोस्टर, बिलबोर्ड आदि पर लगी तस्वीर में दिखती सेलिब्रिटी में है। उसको अपने लिए ऐसे मानक बनाने से रोको जो उसके लिए ही नहीं, उन तारिकाओं के लिए भी बहुत ऊँचे हैं।


- Sonam Kapoor 


(मूल अंग्रेजी से अनुवाद)

By UNICEF -What is Depression?

 https://www.unicef.org/parenting/mental-health/what-is-depression


What is depression?

Recognize signs of low mood and depression in children and learn ways to help them feel better.

What is depression?
UNICEF

What is depression?

Recognize signs of low mood and depression in children and learn ways to help them feel better.

What is depression?
UNICEF
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Skip to main content Parenting TOGGLE NAVIGATION Explainer What is depression? Recognize signs of low mood and depression in children and learn ways to help them feel better. UNICEF All children feel low or down at times, it’s a natural part of growing up. But these emotions can be worrisome when felt intensely over long periods of time, particularly if they affect your child’s social, family and school life. Although it's hard for anyone to feel optimistic when they're depressed, depression can be treated and there are things you can do to help your child feel better. Jump to:  What is depression?  What causes depression? Depression in children and adolescents Signs and symptoms of depression in kids Ways to help your child cope When to seek professional help   What is depression? Depression is one of the most common types of mental health conditions and often develops alongside anxiety. Depression can be mild and short-lived or severe and long-lasting. Some people are affected by depression only once, while others may experience it multiple times. Depression can lead to suicide, but this is preventable when appropriate support is provided. It’s important to know that much can be done to help young people who are thinking about suicide. What causes depression? Depression can happen as a reaction to something like abuse, violence in school, the death of someone close or family problems like domestic violence or family breakdown. Someone might get depressed after being stressed for a long time. It can also run in the family. Sometimes we may not know why it happens. >> Learn more about stress and effective ways to deal with it Depression in children and adolescents Depression can show up in children and adolescents as prolonged periods of unhappiness or irritability. It is quite common among older children and teenagers, but often goes unrecognized. Some children might say they feel “unhappy” or “sad”. Others might say they want to hurt or even kill themselves. Children and adolescents who experience depression are at greater risk of self-harm, so such responses should always be taken seriously. Just because a child seems sad, it doesn't necessarily mean they have depression. But if the sadness becomes persistent or interferes with normal social activities, interests, schoolwork or family life, it may mean they need support from a mental health professional. Remember, only a doctor or a mental health professional can diagnose depression, so don’t hesitate to ask your health-care provider for advice if you are worried about your child. > Discover: Tips and resources to support your family's mental health Signs and symptoms of depression in kids Depression can feel different for different children. Here are some of the common signs and symptoms of depression: Physical: Tiredness or low energy, even when rested Restlessness or difficulty concentrating Difficulty in carrying out daily activities Changes in appetite or sleep patterns Aches or pains that have no obvious cause Emotional and mental: Persistent sadness, anxiousness or irritability Loss of interest in friends and activities that they normally enjoy Withdrawal from others and loneliness Feelings of worthlessness, hopelessness or guilt Taking risks they wouldn’t normally take   Self-harming or suicidal thoughts Experiencing one or more of these symptoms doesn’t mean a child is affected by depression, but there are a number of ways you can help your child cope. If you are worried about your child, do not hesitate to ask your health-care provider for advice. Ways to help your child cope Here are some things you can do to support your child if you think they may be depressed: Find out what’s happening: Ask them how they’re feeling and listen openly without judgment or advice. Ask people you trust who know your child, like a favourite teacher or close friend, to find out if they’ve noticed anything that might be worrying them or changes in their reactions to things. Pay particular attention to their well-being during important life changes like starting a new school or puberty. Spend time with them: Try to build an environment of warmth, reassurance and support by talking or doing age-appropriate activities together that they will enjoy. Take an interest in their life, like how their day was at school or what they love most about their friends. Encourage positive habits: Encourage your child to do the things they usually enjoy, stick to regular eating and sleeping habits and stay active. Physical activity is an important way to boost their mood. Music can have a strong influence on our moods, so try listening to songs together that make them feel positive about life. Let them express themselves: Let them talk to you. Listen carefully to what they say about how they feel. Never press your child to share, instead you can encourage other forms of creative expression like painting, crafts or journaling their thoughts and experiences. Mood-journaling can help some children let their feelings out by observing the things that make them upset or low. They can also be a great reminder of the positive aspects of their life and the things they are proud of. Protect them from stressful surroundings: Try to keep your child away from situations where they may experience excessive stress, maltreatment or violence. And remember to model healthy behaviour and reactions to the stresses in your own life, including setting boundaries and maintaining positive self-care habits. > Discover: Tips and resources to support your family's mental health When to seek professional help As depression can only be diagnosed by a qualified expert, it's important to seek help from your health care provider who may refer your child to a mental health expert or psychiatrist. If the mental health expert thinks your child would benefit from treatment, the options might include some form of talk therapy – where they learn how to manage their thoughts and feelings, or a combination of therapy and medication. If your child has thoughts of self-harm, or has already self-harmed, seek help from emergency services or a health-care professional. Don’t delay getting in touch if you’re worried. Depression can be treated and the sooner you speak to an expert, the sooner your child can feel better. > Discover: Tips and resources to support your family's mental health     Learn more Page Mental health and well-being Tips and resources to help you support your child and yourself Visit the page Explainer What is anxiety? Feelings of anxiety among children are preventable and treatable Read now Explainer What are panic attacks? Understanding the triggers is the first step to helping your child overcome the condition Read now Explainer What is stress? A common feeling that affects children as much as adults, just differently Read now SHARE Footer UNICEF Parenting Child development Developmental milestones Child care Food and nutrition Health COVID-19 guide for parents About UNICEF Parenting Discover more about UNICEF Where we work Take action for children Footer Secondary Contact usLegal Footer tertiary Report fraud, abuse, wrongdoing Skip to main content Parenting TOGGLE NAVIGATION Explainer What is depression? Recognize signs of low mood and depression in children and learn ways to help them feel better. UNICEF All children feel low or down at times, it’s a natural part of growing up. But these emotions can be worrisome when felt intensely over long periods of time, particularly if they affect your child’s social, family and school life. Although it's hard for anyone to feel optimistic when they're depressed, depression can be treated and there are things you can do to help your child feel better. Jump to:  What is depression?  What causes depression? Depression in children and adolescents Signs and symptoms of depression in kids Ways to help your child cope When to seek professional help   What is depression? Depression is one of the most common types of mental health conditions and often develops alongside anxiety. Depression can be mild and short-lived or severe and long-lasting. Some people are affected by depression only once, while others may experience it multiple times. Depression can lead to suicide, but this is preventable when appropriate support is provided. It’s important to know that much can be done to help young people who are thinking about suicide. What causes depression? Depression can happen as a reaction to something like abuse, violence in school, the death of someone close or family problems like domestic violence or family breakdown. Someone might get depressed after being stressed for a long time. It can also run in the family. Sometimes we may not know why it happens. >> Learn more about stress and effective ways to deal with it Depression in children and adolescents Depression can show up in children and adolescents as prolonged periods of unhappiness or irritability. It is quite common among older children and teenagers, but often goes unrecognized. Some children might say they feel “unhappy” or “sad”. Others might say they want to hurt or even kill themselves. Children and adolescents who experience depression are at greater risk of self-harm, so such responses should always be taken seriously. Just because a child seems sad, it doesn't necessarily mean they have depression. But if the sadness becomes persistent or interferes with normal social activities, interests, schoolwork or family life, it may mean they need support from a mental health professional. Remember, only a doctor or a mental health professional can diagnose depression, so don’t hesitate to ask your health-care provider for advice if you are worried about your child. > Discover: Tips and resources to support your family's mental health Signs and symptoms of depression in kids Depression can feel different for different children. Here are some of the common signs and symptoms of depression: Physical: Tiredness or low energy, even when rested Restlessness or difficulty concentrating Difficulty in carrying out daily activities Changes in appetite or sleep patterns Aches or pains that have no obvious cause Emotional and mental: Persistent sadness, anxiousness or irritability Loss of interest in friends and activities that they normally enjoy Withdrawal from others and loneliness Feelings of worthlessness, hopelessness or guilt Taking risks they wouldn’t normally take   Self-harming or suicidal thoughts Experiencing one or more of these symptoms doesn’t mean a child is affected by depression, but there are a number of ways you can help your child cope. If you are worried about your child, do not hesitate to ask your health-care provider for advice. Ways to help your child cope Here are some things you can do to support your child if you think they may be depressed: Find out what’s happening: Ask them how they’re feeling and listen openly without judgment or advice. Ask people you trust who know your child, like a favourite teacher or close friend, to find out if they’ve noticed anything that might be worrying them or changes in their reactions to things. Pay particular attention to their well-being during important life changes like starting a new school or puberty. Spend time with them: Try to build an environment of warmth, reassurance and support by talking or doing age-appropriate activities together that they will enjoy. Take an interest in their life, like how their day was at school or what they love most about their friends. Encourage positive habits: Encourage your child to do the things they usually enjoy, stick to regular eating and sleeping habits and stay active. Physical activity is an important way to boost their mood. Music can have a strong influence on our moods, so try listening to songs together that make them feel positive about life. Let them express themselves: Let them talk to you. Listen carefully to what they say about how they feel. Never press your child to share, instead you can encourage other forms of creative expression like painting, crafts or journaling their thoughts and experiences. Mood-journaling can help some children let their feelings out by observing the things that make them upset or low. They can also be a great reminder of the positive aspects of their life and the things they are proud of. Protect them from stressful surroundings: Try to keep your child away from situations where they may experience excessive stress, maltreatment or violence. And remember to model healthy behaviour and reactions to the stresses in your own life, including setting boundaries and maintaining positive self-care habits. > Discover: Tips and resources to support your family's mental health When to seek professional help As depression can only be diagnosed by a qualified expert, it's important to seek help from your health care provider who may refer your child to a mental health expert or psychiatrist. If the mental health expert thinks your child would benefit from treatment, the options might include some form of talk therapy – where they learn how to manage their thoughts and feelings, or a combination of therapy and medication. If your child has thoughts of self-harm, or has already self-harmed, seek help from emergency services or a health-care professional. Don’t delay getting in touch if you’re worried. 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Motivation - गहराई से सोचो !

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